1. “Do you like when I…?” 2. “I like when you…” 3. “Will you…?” 4. “How does this feel?” 5. “Do you want me to…?” 6. “Do you want to…?” 7. “Is there anything you want to try?” 8. “Show me what you like.” 9. “Do you want to go further?” 10. “Do you want to stop?” 11. “Can I…?” 12. “Does this feel good?” 13. “Are you happy?” 14. “Are you comfortable?” 15. “Are you having a good time?” 16. “Is this good for you?”
My favorite thing about this list: the mix of statements, open-ended questions, and yes-or-no questions.
if a guy ever tells you “you’d look better if you wore less makeup”, tell him he’d look better if he wore more, because 1) he’s likely to get indignant and defensive about his ‘threatened masculinity’, and 2) he almost definitely would look better
How do you think the rest of the youtube abuse scandal/issue will unfurl? I'm frustrated that I haven't seen any more dialogue about it and that the youtubers accused have ducked underground since the first few days after the allegations came to light (specifically Alex Day) instead of addressing them in response to the criticism. Do you think anything will continue to happen/change? That they will come back to address this again?
I dunno. Some people (Luke Conard, Eddplant, maybe others) have just come back to the internet with the attitude of ‘well I apologised and now I’m a better person so let’s move on again’. I think with the strange and massive avoidance of any ‘big names’ talking about it, it’s probably all going to just blow over. It already HAS largely blown over, and a vast majority of the perpetrators’ subscriber bases remain completely unaware.
I know I’m definitely not done talking about it, but tbh I kind of feel like the only one.
That's so cool! that you work in a bar, I mean. I've always wanted to, it seems like a not-horrible job. Do you have any cool bar stories?
i work at a comedy club bar so people might be more arsey than at a normal bar? i mean i really like my job cause of the people i work with, cause we play games and laugh and my boss was a mate, and SOME of the customers are fun, but the others are all fuckin idiots.
- Last week i was ill but had to go in anyway and some man said i looked really arrogant, and then later him and his friends were laughing at me saying i was miserable and called me Miss Trunchbull. Then their girlfriends called us sluts because the guy bought us apology drinks. - Ooh! two people once threw up in a jug and handed it to us over the bar. that was super nice. We rinsed it but then the chunks blocked the sink and we had to pick them out. - Some people get fed up of waiting and try to serve themselves by leaning over the bar and doing their own drinks. that aint how it works mate. - Some girl the other week got really angry at me when i wouldn’t sell her paracetamol? and then I was all “We’re not a pharmacy.” and she was really offended. - One shift there was this massive Stag do out and they were all so fucking stupid that I like…caught it. And i was stupid for the rest of the shift. Their payment took ages because the guy couldn’t work out that he should leave is card IN the machine while it processed. It took him FIVE ATTEMPTS and then he told me I was doing it wrong. - Some people are pro-barwork for tips and stuff but idk if the comedy club makes it seem different to people but I’ve worked there for six months and have been tipped a total of about £10 I think?
Yeah it’s definitely not good customer-wise. some are great fun, but for us it’s AAAALLLL about the people you work with. like, there’s proper solidarity between us all lined up along the bar serving 450 people in an hour slot. we got each other’s back and bond over the occasional stupidity of people. it’s good fun overall. and i have no idea how much like another bar this would be, but that’s mah worrrk. if i didn’t have a thick skin i think i’d really struggle. if you’ve not had the right kinda day it can REALLY knock you down and i’ve had shifts where i had to take a minute out to not get upset by arseholes. But yeah! dats how i get dat sweet minimum wage dollah to pay dem billz innit. <3 xoxo